The thought of failing

Posted on March 5, 2013. Filed under: Chats and thoughts | Tags: , , |

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Welcome all to Converscity. Today I want to talk about the thought of failing. I would say that is the number one reason most people do not take the steps to start something. You are your own worst enemy. You start thinking of all the reason why not to do something. I know you have heard this before however it is an important discussion.
Have you ever saw the show fear factor or the new show called black out? The people on that show are blindfolded and put into a dark room and told to do or to tell what something is just by touching it. Well the reaction of the people are my focal point here. They can not see and you do see some of them screaming or jumping around fearing what it is. They jump to all kinds of conclusions as to what the thing is. It is so funny!!! You see the thing that they are jumping around about and you know it is nothing to fear. However some of the people almost hurt themselves with the thought of what it could be.

Their mind takes over and create the thing that they fear and what ever they touch is that thing that they fear. From that show I really learned and it hit home to me that we create that fear, by thinking of what it could be all based on what we thought. This hold true with a lot of situation and other area of our life.

I remember a time when my dad had a heart attack, I knew he was not going to make it. I invented the doctor telling me all kinds of things, I was a mess, I could not breathe, I could not eat or sleep. I did not want to even go to the hospital in fear of what the doctors were going to tell us.So when I got there I was in tears, and I could not listen to what he was saying, then the doctor told us he was going to be ok and that they did not know he wore dentures. What? what about the dentures? My own fears controlled and overwhelm me. I let them run away with my mind and my emotions. This situation told me about myself and how I let fear of the unknown control my actions and feelings.

The other way we let our fear stop or stall us is when we are going to start something new. A job or a new town or a new project we fear failing. Then we start with all the things in our mind what could happen and how others are going to look at us. We start to procrastinate, or underestimate ourselves.We don’t know enough, we are not good enough,We will be laughed at.So we come to not making or doing what we say we want to do.
The thought of failing leads us to indecision, or saying the time is not right,or we need more money. we come up with every excuse why not to do it and we end up not taking a step at all. Today we hear from all the experts, marketing companies that you need to take action now, If you want something jump on it, don’t wait! To think long is thinking wrong. Why do they say this ,it is because they know that if you think about it to long your mind will come up with all the reason why not to do something or to wait.

Most people fail at something. it is a part of life and the learning curb. When we were children and learning how to walk. How many times did you or the baby try to walk to only fall again and again.

The big question I have is how much do you want to do what you what to do. The desire must be stronger that your thought of failing. You must put aside any thought of failing and replace it with thinking more positive. If you need help with that at first get with and have on hand all things that will motivate you to think positive. I have found that if you write out a plan and make little steps toward your goal you will feel better prepared.

The act of doing all those little things will keep all those thoughts way from your mind. Have you ever notice that when you are busy doing something you have your mind on the task at hand that you don’t think of the negative, you just think on what you are doing at that moment. So with taking little step you can get closer to your desires. Also analyze all the possible outcomes and explore them. Getting rid of the fear of the unknown well make you more aware of all the potential outcomes that can happen. This to can be a rewarding education. We can not stay in our little boxes all our lives and not do nothing due to the thought of failing. Go to seminars or get books on the subject and put your self in the learning action.

When you know more about the subject this is a positive move that will greatly build your self-confidence and your self sabotaging ways of thinking the bad or destructive thoughts of failure. Some times what I do is look at it as a child would do, with the mindset of wonder, every thing is new and is there to explore, it is a puzzle that you must solve, or it is a big experiment. I also have someone who is very positive and who will hold me accountable.

To get over your failing fears and have courage to get pass it will show you a whole new and wonderful self. It leads to a fuller and more rewarding life,for once you get on with your goals and you find out that failing is just a learning tool and exposure to the larger world you will begin to take on more and more challenges knowing that the thought of failing is just a thought and not real and it does not have to be disastrous. Here is a quote for todays thoughts. Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill
The above picture was my daughter she and I got over our fear of that great big spider this weekend at the flower show. oh my that was a challenge!!!! smile.

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